Many of us have abandonment and rejection issues because of previous losses we’ve suffered during childhood. Secretly we began to fear that we would ultimately lose everyone we loved. On a deeper subconscious level we began to equate our losses with being unlovable. We overcompensate in an effort to avoid ever feeling the sting of rejection and abandonment again. We become OVERACHIEVERS in every area we can, including love. We become the best lover, the best friend, constant supporter, and cheerleader in an attempt to prevent those we love from abandoning us. Often this leads to heartbreak because our fear of being rejected produces a spirit of long-suffering which allows abuse.
Once we realize this truth about ourselves, it’s too late to change who we have become [although our initial reason for being the best in every area was fueled by our own insecurities] and most of us have become quite successful in every area except love.
When we seek truth our perception changes and transforms us. We start to understand that all of the pain that we’ve endured and all the people who we’ve tried to love with all of our heart were not a reflection of our self-worth, but only a part of our soul’s journey towards becoming who we were created to be. The means by which we’ve become the men/women of distinction and excellence may have been spurned by our early need for love and acceptance, but has now blossomed into a love and respect for ourselves. Many of us reach levels of success that we must admit we never could have imagined reaching, without the underlined motivation for love and acceptance.
Despite what the motivation was, now, we can say with certainty that despite all the pain, the hurt, and the loss; we are stronger for having not only survived but grown in our spirit and mind because of our experiences.
But deep within our spirit our inner child still has to be reminded that he/she is worthy of the best at all times. We work each and every day to see our self-worth and embrace who we have become despite our reason for becoming. Never down playing our brilliance, our heart, our love, our worth, or our contribution to this world in order to receive love and acceptance. We’ve learned not to fear that our energy vibration will frighten men/women and run them away. We understand that anyone who leaves us because of who we have become is not leaving us, but fleeing the reflection of themselves, they see in us, but that they are not yet prepared to embrace.
Once enlightened, we understand that there is nothing wrong with our love. And we can continue our soul’s journey towards “becoming” without fear and without apology. We don't have to accept the broken-ness of another to hide the wholeness of the Light that is shining within us. Nor fear that our Light will shine too bright and overshadow our lover. We seek to live in the Light and vow to embrace those who also live in the Light. Once we embrace this level of consciousness we start to attract like individuals with vibrations that match our own. Until then, we continue to achieve all that we possibly can believing that while on our journey another will join us, and we will walk in the Light together.
All that we have achieved may have been driven by our need for love and acceptance.
But now we proclaim, no longer will we fear abandonment or rejection.